How To Bounce Back, Day To Day

You did the work but the contract didn’t happen.  You were excited about the catch up and instead felt insulted. You lost your cool at work. These experiences are universal and even though you know “that’s life” sometimes, it can be helpful to have a refresher on what to do when you’re in that moment. Here are some bounce back ideas to try.

Self-soothe

Self-compassion is a very helpful skill during tough times. One that you can draw on anywhere, whenever. Kristin Neff’s work on self-compassion encourages you to 1. Be kind to yourself. When you’re experiencing a difficult moment or upsetting time, use the excellent words and heartfelt support you offer to friends to talk to, encourage and comfort yourself. 2. Recognise your common humanity. Remembering that everyone experiences struggles can help you to feel less alone in your experience. And 3. Be mindful of how you’re feeling so you can be aware of your emotions and also keep them in perspective.

Reach out

Research continually shows social connection is a key contributor to wellbeing. When you’re upset, your people are so important. They know you, your history, your strengths. Reach out to them, even for a 10 minute pep talk. Share your story and let them comfort and encourage you. Try to have a laugh too. This connection will give your mind a break from the experience and redirect you to a wonderful aspect of your life – friendship.

Get active, soon

Take the time you need to rest, but don’t allow this experience or setback to steal too much of your time – it’s too precious. Getting physical is a good start. Whether you enjoy nature walks, yoga, or running up a sweat, do this sooner rather than later. Exercise will help you relieve stress, think clearly and create energy. And work wise, what’s next? Get on to that important task, create something new, look at collaborating. You’ve got loads to contribute so get back to serving others and making a difference.

Head to your happy place

What do you really love to do? And what are you good at? It might be gardening, cooking, playing the guitar or sewing. Give yourself a push if you need to, then go to it! This activity will enhance your wellbeing and give you a happy burst. Equally importantly, it will remind you of your other abilities and interests and expand your world again.

Perhaps you could also write a ‘hits list’, where you note personal and professional achievements over the past few years, list your top personal and professional strengths and jot down your favourite compliments. This exercise will enhance your confidence and give you an uplifting resource to draw on.     

Practice perspective

Angry. Hurt. Remorseful. You can’t deny your experience and there might be things you need to learn, correct or pursue. Perhaps even opportunities to explore. Practicing gratitude however will highlight the great aspects of your life – family, friends, health, interests. And don’t forget, you’ve rebounded from lots of stuff. Scan your history for proof. In time, this experience will be another moment that’s passed and you’ll be better able to support someone who needs your hard-earned wisdom.

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